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Although I might see it from a different perspective, I enjoyed reading your post.  

Nearly every woman I know has read, or is currently reading this book (and that's not an exaggeration).  Personally, I don't see anything wrong with someone reading this type of book, and I actually think it can be a healthy read for some people.  The real question for me was why are so many women drawn to it?  Is it because they are missing something?  Maybe because they don't feel comfortable being open about it because any time they've been honest about sex, they paid the consequences from the other person's reaction?  Maybe because it feels naughty?  Or is it simply that it's fun to read something we would never do ourselves?...

So I asked many women who've read the book, "what draws you in to the book?" and it opened up some awesome, honest, vulnerable dialogue.  Had I told them the reasons they probably shouldn't read the book, I would have missed out on vulnerable dialogue these women were willing to have when in a safe environment for such a discussion.  

Personally, I think more relationships need to explore sexual experiences and for one of the women I know, this book probably saved her relationship because it sparked something in her that her partner simply didn't naturally spark in her.  I don't think it's a sin.  They have an amazing relationship and they are faithful, in love, and together for a lot longer than most couples I know.  However, many people have psychological, physical, emotional, and neurological mysteries that I believe are human conditions that we can't always explain.  So, what might be wrong for one person could be the right prescription for someone else.

And then another question comes to my mind: why do women put so much pressure on a man to fulfill her every sexual need?  In the case of my friend, this book sparked something in her that her man couldn't provide, and in return it caused her to consider being more sexually adventurous with him, and he was so stunned (in a good way) that he naturally felt more confident being naked with her, and the end result is that they can't stop having sex, now.  Based on this case study, I can't judge the book, negatively.