Really?  I've never been to a church like that.  I don't recall even one church being "immersed" in pink.  Must be a different denomination?  I'm from a conservative mainline/evangelical background.  Trust me, there's plenty of guy-guy stuff in the mix.  Even the hymns are often about war/battle ("Onward Christian Soldiers," for example), and there are lots of praise songs about those themes, too.  I don't know that there's anything wrong with singing about love and tenderness, seeing as that's how Jesus interacted with the "worst" sinners of his day.  On the other hand, if you mean those "Jesus is my boyfriend" songs, then yes.  those need to be taken out back and shot.  Although I think that's because I don't treat my relationship with my Savior as having sexual/romantic overtones.  That's different from "love and tenderness."