Coming late to this conversation...

I, too, have to take issue with the idea of women who "want to be men" (again, like Christy above, unless referring to transgender people).  What does that even mean?  That women want to behave in ways that men usually do?  That they have personality traits or behaviors that we typically associate culturally with men?  Because this seems to be beyond the idea that women can function in any type of work.

I suspect that people are just not comfortable with the idea that characteristics are without gender--that a woman could be ambitious, driven, and powerful or that a man could be gentle and nurturing.  We imagine that even when a married couple consider each other to be equals in all things, someone has to be "the man" in the relationship and someone has to be "the woman."

My two children both exhibit traits that are gender non-conforming.  Should I tell them that they are limited in what they do because someone might become confused that they "want to be" the opposite gender?

Until personality types stop having gender, this type of conversation is still relevant.