"Why am I committed to this in the first place?"  The church in which I grew up said, "Because God says so.  Case closed.  Just do it."  Being allergic to "Because I said so" rules from Authority Figures, I've never let the Rule keep me from sex.  Some of that came from being raped at age four and taken hostage sexually while growing up.  Some of that came from wanting to use sex like a weapon towards men like it had been used towards me.  I also like sex.

I've been married several times before, but I've only been monogamous in one committed relationship:  my present marriage of 12 years to my husband, Bud -- a marriage I believe will last, because we both finally married out of God's leadership instead of 87 other reasons and we work hard to make it work.

I can't speak about the pros and cons of sex before marriage.  I don't believe that sex outside of marriage is a sin if it's within a committed relationship, because a legal document doesn't make you one with another.  Only God does that.

So why did I get legally married to my husband?  Why do I only have sex with him and no one else?  Why am I committed to this?  It's become precious to me, knowing he's the only one I share this with.  It makes me feel special.  Plus it's a lot less bother and drama than sleeping around!