The gracious demands of fellowship and advancemnet of the kingdom welcomes a rebuke. I am not looking to be right about the gospel; I am looking to be true to the gospel, and for that I need all the help I can get. We can end up being "too gentle" or "too kind." Disagreement is not necessarily attack. Civility is good, yet sometimes we are just too fevered to pay it much mind, looking solely to make our point. Kind or cold we are still each charged with being open and looking for the spirit of what another is saying. To that end, usually asking questions instead of making accusations works better. This is not directed to anyone here; I state this because I am, as mentioned, wanting to be true to the gospel. Correct me even if clumsily or cruelly; we'll sort it out later.