Hi Raelene, I hear you. All your points are valid when talking to women who do not know God and know what His plan is for a healthy sexual relationship. This book does create a lot of great dialogue as you have experienced first hand. 

When I wrote my article it was for the church—for the people who are reading this book who know God's truths. God wants us to cast all our cares upon Him. God wants our lives to be above reproach and not cause others to stumble. It causes questions in my heart when I hear of Christians reading this book. I know for myself that I shouldn't read this book because it wouldn't help my marriage at all, it would harm it and I know a lot of women who find this true for them as well. 

I  believe you don't have to read the book to have the dialogue with people. I have the conversations myself. And when the appropriate moments comes up in conversation I tell them I won't read the book and why. I too try to foster an atmosphere of love, acceptance and non-judgement when talking to people but I don't have to read erotic novels or watch porn in order to make other people feel they can talk to me. 

I hear your heart. The typical, modern church has not exactly fostered an atmosphere where people can be broken and vulnerable without receiving condemnation and I challenge the church in that area as well. God accepts people just as they are and we need to do the same. But we who profess that Jesus Christ is Lord also need to be aware that at some point God will want us to point the same broken people to Him, to tell them of His love and His desires to heal them and of His amazing Grace. Our lives should glorify Him, our conversations should glorify Him, what we read and watch should glorify Him. 

Loving the dialogue, Raelene! Thank you.

Jordan