In a household or church ordered by servant leadership, it would be difficult to tell who was in charge. To be a true servant is not just to do something for other people but to submit to them. Servant leaders understand that leadership IS submission. Men appear to be "in charge" and "up front" in conservative evangelical churches because their women are exercising true servant leadership. Men should insist upon women being treated equally to avoid the spiritual peril of our own pride. I am only able to be a pastor because my wife is my chaplain.