Thank you Sophie! And the piece of my heart in Egypt is doing well! I too have known people who have left  the church. I often wonder why I didn't- although I definitely sat there, but not really there, for years. But somehow I knew that I had to forgive the church for losing the road map of grace and comfort. And I also realized that I chose, because of  woundedness, to not engage - so I had to repent of that. If you don't engage, people just see the surface and don't know what is under, hurting and wounded. It's still a process for me and some days are better than others, but I have learned more about giving grace in the process. Something I have desperately needed. I'm great at accusing people of not having grace, giving grace to those same people? That's a bit more difficult!