Thank you for your feedback. I'm glad this article has made someone take two minutes to share her story -- one of millions of stories.

I've seen too many lives destroyed by sexual abuse. I'm including three examples.

<em>BL</em> (initials only for privacy) was abused as a young child (about 5), prompting her start having sex like crazy at age 14 having nothing (no virginity) to lose and then sleeping with man after man in a string of bad relationships (last count over 120). Somehow she found a good man who now is her husband. Another example is <em>MC</em> who was raped for hanging out with the wrong crowd at 14. Her life has been a mess since often sabotaging her own relationships. One of the most painful examples that I know of is my friend <em>NH</em> who was raped in a part by some stranger holding a knife to her neck. At least she's had a "normal" sexual life and now is happily married.

In all these cases and many more that I know of, their families and partners don't know anything about the abuse or the abuser. Perhaps male survivors suffer most staying silent often taking their stories to their graves -- for fear of ridicule or been called gay or, worse yet, becoming an abuser too. Needless to say (type), religion much too often doesn't help as it sees victims as dirty and at times even accuse the victim.