I'll reply here to both Austin's comment and Kristen's response. 

Austin, thank you for providing a male's perspective here. It's most appreciated, especially since you take such loving care to maintain equality in, what would seem, all your relationships. 

In large part, I absolutely agree with Kristen's points about how you handled you and your wife's predicament, and what a husband should do if he disagrees with his pastor wife. 

I'll add that I place a very firm emphasis on the unity brought forth by the Holy Spirit. This is key for marriage and churches. If people operate and abide by this power, I've found that there is very little disunity when it comes to spiritual (or practical) matters. 

God desires unity; it's what Jesus prayed for in the Garden ("...that they would be one.").