Thank you. It seems more of the Church needs to practice your example, as concerns "spewing their hateful words,"  or what my group calls "attraction rather than promotion." Saint Francis said it best (I may be paraphrasing a bit), "Preach the gospel always, and where necessary, use words." 
Can I "preach" the gospel? It is something that gets a yes and no answer. If the product doesn't work, my poor attitude and outlook, why buy it?.Yet being honest about the why of my poor attitude and outlook is usually a draw and not a mark against my faith. With friends of the faith or otherwise, I feel it is a mistake to take the "fruit of the spirit" as behavorial modification techniques: act like a Christian. They come as needed when the time is right. To me, this "acting like a Christian" is a disservice to all involved and inhibits the movement of spirit. The Pharisees acted like holy men.