"When someone talks for twenty full minutes about how he is going to step on some toes, how he didn’t want to offend anyone, but that he needed to share the truth, I just want there to be something more substantial than telling me to do my devotions."

lol.    Just wanted to get that out....

Yes, it seems as if you learned the  truth that the greatest perceived evil to the Christian church are the ones who ask too many questions.  At least in the communities that you and I have attended.  

I can only imagine the feelings and emotions you experienced when the folks you considered mentors turned their backs on you for some "acceptable and approved counsel."  Telling you to merely get over it or buck up, when you had some genuine concerns that needed to be aired and listened to and acknowledged and affirmed.  

This is the one time in your writings that i wish to extend my apologies to you, because I know I have probably done the very same thing to others.  You know, not listened, tried to just get them to move on, evaded healthy conflict, rather than engaged it?

Thanks again for being vulnerable with us and telling your story.  Keep up the good work!  :)