Hi, Marilyn. There's something about a shared experience that makes us feel...normal. I think for me the important thing was to recognize that while my Bible study lady was different, she was most definitely not wrong. I understand the North East mind set; it is often as cold as the earth. I hope you are able to find the words that work for you and use them confidently. 

As for reposting, you may definitely share the link or refer back to it.