Thanks Meg!  It is no doubt true that (some) of the older generations experience a great deal of discomfort with the new world they find themselves in.  Navigating that is a challenge.  There is a book that helped a bunch of older folk I know <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Call-Me-Blessed-Emerging-Christian/dp/0802803024/ref=sr_1_6?s=books&amp;ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1319944983&amp;sr=1-6" rel="nofollow">Call Me Blessed</a>: The Emerging Christian Woman by Faith Martin that might be one to suggest to your pastor.  It is very gentle and biblical.  It helped my own parents and others of their ilk at one time. 

Thanks for your thoughts.  I appreciate you a lot.