Author John Fischer once shared with me a way of seeing reality that stuck with me.  He said, "We hear the passage, 'Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable--if anything is excellent or praiseworthy--think about such things.' and we think we're supposed to find the things that are noble and right and such.  But what if the passage is telling us to find what is noble and right in each thing/person, to actually search for it in everything.  And when we do, we'll find it."  It rocked my world.