John, there's a saying that essentially says you don't understand what someone has experienced until you have walked in their shoes.  That's true for all of us.  I have some understanding of what Andrea felt, because I had similair feelings at one time.  I have only sympathy for a crack addict or someone with a fatal disease because I've never been there.

But I agree with you about some Christians.  It's easy in righteous indignation to judge the sinner along with the sin.  But Jesus never did that.  Not once.  It takes the grace of God within us to love, period.  To offer grace because we all need grace.  One of my favorite verses is James 2:11:  "For whoever keeps the whole law and yet stumbles in one point, he has become guilty of all."  

God doesn't have lists of good sins and bad sins.  In His justice system, a person that steals a pencil in third grade is just as guilty as a chainsaw murderer.  We all need God's forgiveness, mercy and grace.  Only when we recognize that do we become capable of ministering to all people, regardless of what they have done.

Here's one more verse I think about on a regular basis:  "Do not judge lest you be judged.  For in the way you judge, you will be judged; and by your standard of measure it will be measured to you"  Matt. 7:1-2.

I appreciate your candor and understanding.  God grant all of us to see what we need and extend it to others.