Jonathan, I'm sorry to hear you feel so misunderstood- I know how frustrating that can be, on a smaller scale. I want to tell you that I was rubbed- mildly- the wrong way by some of the same phrases others have mentioned. I was not convinced that there was any problem in your thinking or intent by what you originally wrote... but I was by your response to criticism. Based on your comment above, I'm again inclined to think I misunderstood, but I think it's important for you to understand that you are contributing to that misunderstanding. Many of your responses above have appeared to me to be rather defensive, a la "That's not what I said/meant." It would help me immensely, if you would explain what you were getting at in these statements that others have taken issue with. We all get misunderstood at times- all the more so over text, and further when addressing issues that are provokative and emotional. Would you kindly take another stab at explaining your meaning?