This week, a dad <a title="Facebook Parenting: For the Troubled Teen" href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&amp;v=kl1ujzRidmU" target="_blank">disciplined his daughter</a>. And at the time of me writing this piece, that discipline has been viewed over 14 million times.

Personally, I understand Hannah's father's frustration with being disrespected. There is nothing that gets me upset as a parent more than when one of my children disrespects me or their father. It hurts any time that I see one of my children behaving in a way that is contrary to the manner that I've raised them, but there is a much deeper hurt that comes from being disrespected by one of them. If I found a letter like the one that Hannah posted on Facebook, I would be profoundly upset. And if it happened more than once, I would be losing it big time.

As a result, I get why people are supporting the father. We're tired of seeing kids disrespect adults without consequence. We're tired of seeing kids sporting entitlement attitudes. We're ready to see parents take back parenting and expect more from their children. We're ready to see kids learn the value of hard work and respect. These are important lessons and we applaud parents that teach them.

That said, I have concerns with the way this situation was handled. In the digital age, one of the things that most of try to instill in our kids is the notion that the internet is forever. When our children post words or pictures or videos online, there is no way to get that content back. Even if it's something safe, we have no idea how it might be used by someone else. That is a truth that can't be emphasized enough when talking with our children. <a href="http://www.nacacnet.org/PublicationsResources/steps/Articles/Pages/MySpace.aspx">Colleges and employers</a> are more and more likely to check your Facebook page or your Twitter feed or your blog for information about you as a person. Digital footprints are indelible.

But this dad (who is apparently an IT professional) has used the very public medium of YouTube to shame his daughter. He could have had this conversation with her at home. He could have read her letter to her aloud. He could have told her how to address the woman who works for them with more respect. He could have even shot her laptop in front of her. Instead, he wanted to be able to embarrass her in front of her friends the way that he felt he had been embarrassed in front of them. But this has gone far beyond her friends, and her shame has been made public.

Parenting in the midst of social media is new, and we need to be careful about how we do it. We have become accustomed to sharing every thought that we have with our followers and friends, so it's natural that when we're annoyed with our kids, we want to share that too. We want to blog about our bratty tween or post a quick tweet about our spoiled elementary aged kid or post a video where we teach our 15 year old a lesson.

But this isn't our right as parents. Our kids deserve to be treated with dignity and when we malign our kids in public, we contribute to the culture that says that cyber-bullying is okay. We teach them that our immediate feelings of frustration can make us internet celebrities. We teach them that to be right, you just have to get a lot of likes or retweets or views.

Fourteen million YouTube views might FEEL like success, but it's just fame. And being famous for humiliating a 15 year old online isn't the way that I want my parenting to be remembered. The fact is, the only way Hannah's dad is going to know if his discipline worked is further down the line when she displays behavior that is more in line with his values.

I hope that he makes a video for that moment too.