I was not a part of the Denim Skirt Cult, but I was pretty close. There were all sorts of rules about what we could and couldn't wear, and even for Senior Banquet (the prom without dancing because dancing is of the devil) we couldn't wear strapless dresses because "the boys will wonder where your bra is". I kid you not, that was the ACTUAL reason given to me.

And then, once I got out of that environment, it took me several years to get comfortable with myself again. I worried if something felt too low, or too sexy, or too comfortable on my skin. Eventually I realized that if I felt nice in something I could wear it, or if it was balls hot outside and the most comfortable/coolest tank I have doesn't line up with my bra straps, the men aren't going to flip into rape mode because of me.

I think we turn men into animals sometimes. They are in charge of themselves. They are responsible for themselves, just like us. We have to stop shaming women's bodies. It's just not healthy.