This is well-written and thoughtful.  Some great insights!

I'm not sure about this, though:

"God created marriage as an earthly reflection of a spiritual dynamic."

Actually, God created marriage because it wasn't "good for the man to be alone."  We may see spiritual truths reflected in the marriage relationship, but I think saying that's the purpose is stretching literalism a little too far.

"...Paul’s culture, in which women notoriously overused the gift of speech..."

I don't know why people assume this to be true.  It seems from Scripture that *both* men and women were notorious for misusing their mouths, in much the same ways.  Men aren't paragons of gossip-free virtue, and they weren't back then, either.  Unless there are historical texts (of the non-misogynist variety) to back up that claim, it's faulty.

On the other hand, I loved your use of Pilate's wife.  She's definitely someone I wish we knew more about.