The title of this article is a quote from the film <a href="http://www.tuckermax.com/movie"><em>I Hope They Serve Beer in Hell</em></a>, a crude movie about the escapades of Tucker Max.  I should note here that I haven't seen the film; I found the quote on a blog about rape culture.  Sadly, though it may be phrased more politely, far too many men echo the sentiment of the quote.  They are eager to blame women for their lack of sexual self-control.  One young man recently told me, "What girls don't get is that if they dress a certain way, guys are going to <em>treat</em> them a certain way."

I'm crying baloney on that one.  Men have been using their sexuality to dominate women for thousands of years.  It has nothing to do with what women put on their bodies.  If it did, then rape wouldn't exist in cultures where women are covered head-to-toe.  And if it were about modesty, then we shouldn't have had rape in America before the turn of the century (excluding prostitutes, of course).  I don't know about anyone else, but I am sick to death of hearing about how a woman was to blame for the way a man treated her, based on whatever he deems "leading."

I'm also tired of the way that too many churches teach this as faith-based sexuality.  Girls are shamed for dressing "inappropriately," and warned about the visually-driven male libido.  But boys are given a pass if the girl seemed like she was asking for it.  The pressure is constantly on girls and women to make sure we don't send the wrong signals or put ourselves in dangerous situations.  There is very little pressure on guys to make sure they're treating us respectfully, regardless of our state of dress or level of intoxication.  Given that, it should come as no surprise that I was refreshed to see this photo posted on my friend's Facebook page:

<a href="http://provoketive.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Men-Can-Stop-Rape.jpg"><img class="alignleft size-medium wp-image-3568" src="http://provoketive.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Men-Can-Stop-Rape-206x300.jpg" alt="" width="206" height="300" /></a>

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Yes, men and boys, you <em>do </em>have the power to treat women and girls right, no matter the circumstances.  I want to see much more of this kind of thing taught to our sons.  I want to see much less of our daughters being blamed for mistreatment by males.