Renee, I'm so glad to hear it!  I think the place where the miscommunication happened was where you said this:

"Since we trust each other in these abilities, Greg as the 'spiritual leader' of our family is not burdened down by religious expectation to be perfect in single handedly making decisions for our family."

I saw that you put "spiritual leader" in quotes, but it still looked to me like you were saying Greg was THE spiritual leader of your family-- so I thought you were saying that you were giving yourself more latitude to give him input, but the buck still stopped with him.  I'm glad that you consider yourselves to both be the family's spiritual leaders.