Ray,
I believe there is real restoration for the humble, broken man.  Yet, God's time table is not ours.  In the past I wanted to rush the process.  Once we let it go completely (ministry) then God began to heal us.  I am grateful for His grace.  I can identify that as I share my story other men are more open to share their sin and struggle.  

In so many ways I am more fit for ministry than I ever have been in my life.  We did so many things for the Lord overseas.  Yet my personal life was a disaster.  I pray He gives me, like Jonah, a second chance.
Wayward missionary