amy, yes! i believe that conversations about gender are important, too.  it's the prescriptive, culture-based arguments about how wo/men *should* be that are problematic, needlessly limiting, and ultimately deceptive.

i'm raising a boy and a girl and believe that men and women are different in ways i might not have believed before i had kids--but i am not willing either to make the leap from "boys tend to be rough, physical" etc to "men are/*should be* like this and women who act that way are trying to be men."