As a pastor myself i really like what you have to say. We pastors are somewhat of a different breed which may lead to some "controlling boyfriend" behavior. We tend to be isolated even though we are surrounded by people. We tend to live in our small kingdoms of church walls and committees. We also are somewhat fearful of losing control so we get real competitive with other churches unfortunately .  Ive gone to lengths to repent of these things and change my behavior but they still crop up. Your article is a great reminder that the work is the Lords to control, not ours. Thank you. (Small push-back:  Even though outward performance does not a disciple make, still according to Deut. 6 and John 14:23 on and 1 John 5:3 God's love language seems to be obedience.  Obedience of His laws, not church culture laws of course.  So I say lets obey His commands to show our love to Him first and foremost, and the social aspects of obedience will take care of themselves.  Thanks again)