<p style="text-align: left">Even before I became a Christian I had crazy idea embedded inside of me that life was supposed to be pretty clear and easy if you did certain things.  Maybe it was growing up with a single mom who struggled and scraped and believing that <em>"if I got a college education, it wouldn't be like that"</em> or "<em>If you don't rock the boat, you can keep everyone happy."</em> The message of "Do this that and you can get this or that" was engrained in me from early on, and this was long before I became a Christ-follower.

Once I made the leap toward Jesus in my early adult years, the message was actually more strongly reinforced, only with a little twist of adding "God" to it:   <em>"If you do these things, believe these things, memorize these things, God will _________."</em>

Really, this kind of thinking makes an assumption that life is supposed to look like this:
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It's ladder-like living where we keep moving forward and don't look back.  One rung after another after another, somehow expected to forget what's behind us and keep pressing forward to what's ahead. With enough faith, forgiveness, prayer, and fortitude, we'll keep rising higher and higher and getting better and better.   It's formulaic and if you just do the right things, the right things will come together.

Yeah, it didn't work so well for me<strong>.</strong>  As much as I secretly long for "linear" my life was anything but.  In fact, my life has always felt a lot more like this:

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Look familiar?

About 16 years ago I heard a very wise woman named Jan Frank speak at a women's retreat.  I have no idea what she's doing these days, but I will always remember this imagery.  She shared that even though we long for life to be linear, and to be healed quickly from things in the past or negative messages about ourselves, it just doesn't work that way.  Rather, <strong>over the course of our lives we will continually hit our "stuff" over and over again, but each time at a new place. </strong></p>
<p style="text-align: left">The model she shared looked like this:</p>
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<strong>The spiral is bringing me hope right now.</strong>  Sometimes longing and hoping and wishing and begging for life to be linear can be so frustrating.   I don't want to still be saddled with the same messages I have struggled with for years. The ones that all-roads-lead-to for me are "I'm not enough" and "I'm really on my own."  As much healing work as God has done with them, as much as I know they are not true, as much as I can put them in their proper place, they still show up in my heart and my head and relationships.  Meanwhile, I keep consciously and unconsciously expecting them to be done, in the past, and happily moving up the next rung of the ladder.

But I am reminded, yet again, as this new year begins that life is so not linear.  <strong>It never was and it never will be. </strong> I am going to hit my woundedness again, and again, and again over the course of my life, <strong>but each time at a little different place. </strong> Instead of expecting the messes to be gone and being angry at myself and God for not taking care of it as quickly as I'd like, I am learning to lean into God's ongoing transformation in my life.   I will continually bump into these core messages, especially during times of trial and challenge, and each time God will work to heal and restore yet another layer that needs tending to.

Linear expectations of ourselves, of God, of other people tend to lead to shame, self-hatred, and anger.   I think a lot of our church experiences have subtly and directly taught us that linear living was possible.  In this model, we always fall short and end up feeling bad about ourselves.  It eventually leads to hopelessness.</p>
<p style="text-align: left">Thinking that life is just a chaotic, crazy roller coaster ride with no rhyme or reason to it isn't very hopeful, either.

<strong>Accepting the spiral-ness of life leads to freedom, hope, and peace.</strong>  It <a href="http://kathyescobar.com/2011/05/10/letting-god-off-the-hook/">lets God off the hook</a> and helps us notice <em>"Yep, there it is again, rearing its ugly little head, trying to teach me something</em>" instead of being royally ticked that we're still struggling.   This infuses me with hope.

Hope that I'm not a total screw-up.
Hope that there's a bigger story unfolding.
Hope that God is always at work, transforming, rebuilding, renewing, restoring.
No matter how many times I hit the same stuff.

Hope is remembering that every time I bump up against my weaknesses and painful parts of my story, it is at a new place, there to teach me something really good about what it means to be human in a messy, broken world.

Yeah, life is not linear.  Never was and never will be.</p>