Deanna, I definitely want to encourage you to go with the conversation you are leaning toward having. As I mention in my post, I do think modeling good dialogue with your partner is one of the most beneficial things you can do, and before your kids do come along, it is good to already have laid a great foundation in advance for healthy conversations. The key is to be respectful of his own journey, as well (which I suspect you would be)- and who knows? I have been surprised over and over again with where my wife is in her journey when we actually talk about it, and how much more willing to question things she is than I had previously thought she would be!