Just finished this book. I've been a music/worship director for about 10 years.
"The Resignation of Eve acknowledges with compassion the tensions women face but the premise is unfair. We are dared to bolt from our churches and force the church’s hand, in order for them to somehow see how important we are. But you must appreciate the tragic fact that this will be held against us. The very nature of our character will be called into question, women who have faithfully worked, loved, served the Church for generations." YES, YES, YES. 
I have, at times, even worked in a church with a female pastor and was disconcerted, disheartened and disillusioned to discover that even then, I was not allowed to truly lead. I was hired to be the Music Director for the worship band, but was instructed to stay quietly in the background while a male band leader took center stage. I could and did all the service planning, song selection, etc. However, the pastor felt uncomfortable with "too much female presence" in front of the congregation, and, as she was the senior, actually only, pastor on staff, that was enough feminine presence. I was eventually nudged out so that the worship staff is now only men, but I was "welcome to stay on and sing (backup) as I felt led". It felt like a slap in the face. From another woman, no less. Stay or leave? Still haven't figured that one out.