Thanks for the post - I believe in living authentically even when we have to struggle past the cultural pressures to do it!  I can relate to a lot of what you said as I am also a 57 year old woman.  I do color my hair and wear light makeup but that has nothing to do with my age - that is just what I have always done as an adult and I do it for the same reason you said you wear the lingerie ... "I like the way it makes me feel" ... but I will admit that I get frustrated with some of my aging family and friends when they seem so against current stuff - whether it is music or tech or politics or religion or movies or books.  Some of them seem to think that anything that young people think or anything that is current or new is inferior or silly or maybe even bad. I don't think that getting older means we can't also be interested in and enjoy what is current.