Hi Heather G

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I was part of a "denim skirt cult" when I was in my formative teenage years.  Even when I was older and no longer part of that group, I developed a reputation for being a really bad dresser.   At first I was insulted that christians on campus constantly told me I needed to dress more attractively, thinking they were too hung up on worldly concerns. I no longer wanted to stick to any religious rules about clothing, but I had internalized the "look" that said, "don't look at my body."  All my clothes were too baggy and very unattractive, and I didn't know what I was doing wrong.  I blame the teachings I got when I was developing my sense of self.  I think this had to do with why I was unable to attract a spouse in my 20's and by the time I started figuring out that I was dressing terribly in my 30's, bad habits were really ingrained and it still is a fight to figure out how to dress attractively and decently.