Hi Wayne, thanks for taking the time to comment.

I like the way you think of forgiveness as a place you must go over and over, putting your weapons down to make the trip.  That's pretty cool.

No, there isn't a word missing.  The question was a challenge to think of how we sometimes hold someone else's chance for redemption hostage because we cannot forgive them.  Although forgiveness is more for the forgiver than the forgiven, it plays a role in another's redemption.  Think of it this way, someone who has hurt us wants to 'make it up' to us, to redeem themselves, and if there's no forgiveness, we hold them hostage, binding them on earth, and they may think "why bother" and not pursue redemption.  That's was the challenge, and is my challenge to this day with my ex-wife.