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Is that the future of our girls?
Is your body the key to getting what you want?
Is attraction to others and the desire to get  the main motivator's of our lives?

Let's bring some clarity to these questions by defining the difference between beauty and glamour.
Beauty - That which you are.
Glamour - That which you are trying to be something else in order to get a desired thing or outcome.

<strong>Glamour uses seduction as a mean of attracting to itself a desired object that's value is projected onto it as a source of happiness</strong>.

The true source of happiness stems from within, the desire cannot be satisfied because it constantly projects value onto external things.  One's desires get fulfilled, the focus then moves on to another object of desire with endless procession.

<a href="http://provoketive.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Relate-101.jpg"><img class="alignleft size-medium wp-image-3643" src="http://provoketive.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Relate-101-300x300.jpg" alt="" width="300" height="300" /></a>This body image value system doesn't or will not change because we get upset and boycott these images. It changes by one's ability to ask the tough questions, to search for answers that are not found 'out there.'

<strong>I cannot be seduced by an image if I know what I am.</strong>

Look in the mirror, do you love what you see?
Do you smile at that image knowing it is what you have not what you are?

A few years ago my wife and I were going through a trying time. I was completely honest and open with her about my life and they things that were running it. I told her that I did not need her to be my mom, or seductress anymore. I was detaching from her a pushing her away. I was projecting my fear of being controlled onto her so I could have an excuse for being afraid. Every morning I ascended a beautiful mountain at sunrise as a way of contemplating what really mattered to me. One morning on the way up I was holding my wife in mind asking for help with our situation. I cannot explain very well what happened next, but I will do my best.

I suddenly found myself in an overwhelming presence of Love and Beauty. I then within saw my wife as she Is. Without a past or future, without my feelings about her, she simply was Beauty manifested, Lovely, Perfect and One. I saw that she had put on a mask to relate to me, she had chosen to serve my false image giving it the Grace and safety it needed to dissolve.

I ran down the mountain into our home and straight to my wife. I grabbed her hands and I began to tell her about what I had realized. I asked her to forgive me for making her the enemy. I thanked her for staying true and walking me through my shit.  As I was saying these things I began to notice a very strong fragrance in the room. I asked her if she had lit a candle. She told me no, we both began to breath in this beautiful fragrance. It then dawned on me, this is her, this smell is Beauty being seen as it is. We both wept and laughed realizing the drama I had created was nothing more then my attempts to control what can never be controlled.

Fear is the only thing that seeks acceptance, Love knows and when experienced one knows completion.

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