Adam, I don't know if you meant to sound so harsh, but you do. And I don't think you'll every find your answer with that kind of stance. 

I get your response, but the to base a community aspect on a cultural distinction is not the best place to start.  First the "law" you so aptly defend is always trumped by a single law of love.  And Paul's own "commands" are always trumped by the bigger kingdom law of love.  You've chosen to see his command as universal.  I get that.  But if you do then you have to work it against Paul's own words elsewhere where he says, "there is now Jew or Gentile, male or female." Or, "everything is lawful but not profitable."  It's easy to agree with the prevailing notion when it suits your purposes as a male.  But when women feel oppressed by the mandate not to participate in leadership, then something is wrong. 

Keep searching brother.